In group the other week we were talking about society pushing in and my pushing back. The group leader drew a diagram of a persona in a circle surrounded by scads of arrows pointing in forcing him or her to be who the others say they should be. We also had a woman in the group whose life had been virtually destroyed by others’ judgments of her for her lesbianism. I suddenly saw the image of St Sebastian. This image may have that kind of depth. And no wonder that it is adopted by gay people.
Also, Sebastian was a war resister.
I also said in group that I had always been in accepting places since becoming an adult. Then I realized that I was one of the people making those places accepting.